[sarcasm]Yea go for it OP, an hero already! Thats always the best way to solve your problems [/sarcasm].

Seriously though, women come and go. Is it really worth killing yourself over her? Get over it. Go out with some of your friends, live it up someone better will always come along.

You should find yourself another girl. You could start looking for one right now.

A dead guy has absolutely no chance of getting a girlfriend.

Unless she's into necrophilia.

I'm never one to condone suicide, everyone's own choice.

That said, if you do decide to off yourself, make a video of it and have some organisation in place (through friends etc.) that she will see it. Just to ruin her life a little bit, for the lulz.

If you off yourself in a gory way, make a vid of it too, some death metal or ebm or noise band can always use such videos.

If however you decide to not off yourself, just realise that there are more fish out in the sea and other mothers have nice daughters too

Well, a corpse has no feeling, so the dead guy still is going to miss all the fun.

The dude's situation doesn't look like a good reason to "end it all" (there are worse things that could happen). I can understand suicide if that's a result of cold-blooded reasoning, but this situation is pure emotion, and that emotion will eventually pass.
Anyway, if OPs seriously considering it, there are samaritans.org and psychologists he may want to try talking to. Other than that, it is his life and his decisions.

would this person kill himself for ANY Girl...?!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ol67q...eature=related

Yet... many girls would readily die for him...

Some give the energy away... some take the energy the others give...

That's Yin and Yang...

Be the source of Energy... not the sink of it...

Commiting suicide is an unbalance between the two of them... too much Yin, much less Yang...

I am not impressed with many of the responses.

A forum member is crying out for help. I would expect more empathy from this community.

If it were possible,DJ, you and I would go for coffee and have a good talk.

@ DJ, buddy I know it hurts but you CAN get past it. Do yourself a favour go and chat to someone who is trained to help people who are feeling overwhelmed (just like you are). If you want to shed a tear by all means do so it makes you no less a man to have a cry and can help you to feel so much better when you have let all that emotion out in a POSITIVE way.

+1 to that, I would go further and say that some of them are outright counter constructive. Guys/gals (can't leave the girls out if any are reading) in situations like this it's best to keep your mouth shut unless you have something positively constructive to say. Seriously, even in jest some of you can actually do some serious harm.

In order to receive help, one must start by helping himself... and to do this, one must get aware of the fact that it all begins with self-esteem...

This is the very first step in the journey, probably the hardest one in the OP's condition, nonetheless the most vital one...

the OP must realise that :

1. He had a life before all that happened , in short : It is not a matter of survival.
2. All his feelings depend on a subjective perception of things; wether he loses her ( in fact he already did ) or not, his worth and interinsic value are essentially untouched, and depend solely on his will.
3. As a matter of fact, he did not lose her... she is not an object, she is a conscious living human being which made a choice according to her priorities, values and goals, which happen to be diverse from the OP's,

IMHO, the OP should commit himself to pursue his very own priorities, values and goals, whatever they are, and be honourable to the others in his quest.

If he manages to do this, regardless of whoever crosses in his way, then he is a strong and noble person. But to do this, he must believe in his own strength, and relativize things;

One way of doing this is getting out with some friends, meeting new ppl, working, studying, practising a martial art, or a relaxation technique like Yoga or tai Chi...

the OP must have a "man to man" talk with himself... and if he can't do this by himself, I think nobody in LQ will be able to do this for him, IMHO

Hope this helps the OP or anyone here...

One on three marriage end in a divorce. You don't have to go thru that, be happy, divorce is an order of magnitude worse. Really.

jlinkels

We have been there once or twice (or even more times). It hurts for a brief moment but life goes on. This is a REALLY ridiculous reason for even considering suicide.
I don't think DJ needs empathy from us. Empathy leads to feeling sorry for oneself. What DJ needs is a kick in the arse.
There's more fish in the sea. In a year or so DJ will be laughing at this post lying on a sofa with his new girlfriend.
I know the pain is real, but why make it even bigger?
As someone already suggested, the best method to ease the pain is to get really busy. You'll have more time and you need to fill it in with something. That's an excellent opportunity to do some projects that you might have been putting off.
Two things that result from her choice:

1. If she chose him because of the money, she wasn't worth it. It's better that you learnt about it now.
2. You can actually benefit from it in terms of your own development.

If you look at it from this (the right) side, you should actually go and thank her.

edit: This song always cheers me up.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=buqtd...eature=related

Feel your own strengh...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0AC4o...eature=related

nothing else matters...

Just listen to Metallica until you feel better.

With her own consent or under parental pressure? If its HER own will, then its proved
she doesn't value your love, and then there is no reason for you to be depressed!!

and if she's getting engaged against her will then your following quote applies:


Yes applying these logics won't be easy as they seem, but you have to keep talking to your real/virtual friends and keep yourself busy, just don't stay alone since Empty mind is a devil's workshop.

Get off your computer and seek professional help. If empathy on an internet is all it takes to dissuade you from suicide, you couldn't have been serious to begin with. Not trying to be callous, but seriously.

True story: behavior that some may classify as suicidal has been documented in various animals. Evolution isn't going to help you out.

Remember, time heals all wounds.

If you found this out recently, go someplace and be alone and cry your eyes out(licking your wounds), then jump back into battle, go get drunk and get another female. Hopefully the new one will help keep your mind off the old one!