This is normal. You may be grieving right now, the same as you would if someone you loved died. That sounds weird, but grief happens in all sorts of circumstances. Give it time.

Well, it would help if they did, because it is demoralizing when your own family doesn't help you when you need it. As an example, I was involved in a car crash some time ago, at high speed on the highway during the rain ... I made it out ok, but it was close. If something had gone differently it would have been bad. I called my mom immediately and told her. For the next few days tho, the blame was thrown on me. I didn't remember much of the crash, and too wondered whether it was my fault, as another car was involved. Then my mom said something that I cannot forgive even to this day, she said something like "I cried when I saw the state of the car, and what you did to it." To me this suggests that she cares more about a piece of metal, than about me. Although the car was totaled, it was drivable and not too badly damaged, it's just that the insurance probably makes more money if they claim it totaled. I got most of the money back for the car, around $20k (out of an original value of $25k) and bought a brand new car of the same type ... no loss at all. It turned out that it wasn't even my fault, because apparently someone slammed into me from behind and spun me out.

I rely on myself to get through, as I have always had to ... but I think it may have made me stronger. So, it's not all bad. It would be great find someone to care about and who would care about me, but you have to be careful, because as you can see ... if you find the wrong person, you'll instead get a lot of pain and suffering.

Anyway good luck, I'm glad you are able to cope with it. With time it will go away.

This thing has also something to do with your age. If you consider your age and try to answer the two questions, 1) would and should your mom hold your hand to make it feel better, and 2) was there really any chance of it working out, for real, you'll probably figure out why you can stop feeling miserable and start conquering the world again. If you don't, you should definitely forget about this and move on to the next experience. Family is there for you, but instead of relying on that you should try to get by without that help; that way you pretty much can't fail. The worst case is if your family doesn't care and you can't live without it--don't go there.

+1.

Binary thinking (right/wrong, love/hate, etc) just makes things worse in this situation. Seriously, she went out with you, she cant only hate you, no matter what she says. Actually, if she sayd she hates you, part of her might, but part of her might love you as well...love and hate are very close in some ways.

I find that humour can help a lot in situations like this.

http://www.fictionalworks.org/forum/...live-cd-songs/

There is more, I wont copy/paste the rest, it might offend some people. Just a pity that I cant seem to find a link for video of that skit.

I wont quote the post where went on about connection (#110) but yeah, been there, done that. I had the added spin of it happening on the internet with many weird turns(yeah, I know, read on).

I was talking to this girl for well over a year and a half, completely stuffed myself up. I was so bad that when my computer started playing stupid with me, and would only let me connect to the net ONCE per install, I was reinstalling 2K once a day, every day, and if I dropped out during a conversation with her I would reinstall and hope she was still online.

The end came when I saw her in my city (she was from 1000KM away) with her brother and her brothers GF. Who, as an aside was her best friend, and I just 'knew' that she liked her brother and told said girl that she should tell her friend it was OK for her to go out with him. I didnt have the guts to talk to her straight away, and by the time I got the courage up I couldnt find her.

She flipped when she got home and during an conversation I told her I knew she was in brissy, she asked me how I knew, etc. But still, kept her distance, and tried to keep me at arms length. It wasnt that long after that when I sent an email I knew would annoy her, then wnet out (leaving the messenger running). When I got home, I found a series of emails, the last of which was nasty, written in red huge font (I still have the email).

BTW...I never even had her pic, or talked to her by phone. (I told you it was weird)

I still think about her from time to time, and yeah, I'm sorry that the whole thing ever happened. But I got over it, and if you give yourself the chance, you will as well.

4- Get some sun. Its helps with depression.

Maybe it is better the way it happened... :

Think about it... being with a person which is only into the money, into the social status...

Is that person somenone to be trusted, for good or for worse...?

Is that person someone you would trust your life to...? I don't thinks so... speaking for myself...

Once ... loooong ago... ( time is relative... for me it happened eons ago ) there was this hot shot gf i had...

I thought she liked me... yeah.. kind of... duuuhhh... i never figured that she was dating the son of a renowned Psychiatrist, with a huge real estate, from a very traditional family... no... dumb as i am... i thought she was dating ME.

... guess what happened... the very next week my dad died from a coronary strike, she left me... nice isn't it...?

LULZZZ... for almost two years, i went mad like hell... i was angry at mankind... i only trained, workout, ran, played chess, fought... i left medical school since there was no point in continuing there... i changed to Mech Eng...

I just wanted to get even... no matter with who... everybody seemed so fake, so hypocryte sooo.. repulsing... i mean... i was in a real mess at that time...


as time went by i started to cool down... progressed in my graduation... learned foreign tongues... met nice people... it's been a long time in terms of personal achievements...

Time has passed... i saw that POW(ex, NaN) gf of mine two months ago... i am really surprised at the fact that this person whom i hated so much caused me no change in mood at all... of course we did not speak, and probably this will never happen... since i do not speak to some kinds of ppl... but she stared, and stared...

I just do not care... you know the feeling...?

Absolute supremacy... nothing less.

So... there is an old Confucian saying which translates like this :

"Long Life and much health to all my enemies, so that they witness all my victories standing in both feet..."

It is not over until one says it is...

and time came to me to say it was over... it was my call

Now it is your call to say its over... and you are in the good path.

That was too sweet and touching too You were reinstalling Windows again and again?, that would have taken you two hours per install