hmm, i ran kcontrol and it started outputting:
root@localhost bin]# kcontrol
Link points to "/tmp/ksocket-root"
QPixmap: Cannot create a QPixmap when no GUI is being used
QPixmap: Cannot create a QPixmap when no GUI is being used
Link points to "/tmp/kde-root"
QPixmap: Cannot create a QPixmap when no GUI is being used
QPixmap: Cannot create a QPixmap when no GUI is being used
kbuildsycoca running...
Reusing existing ksycoca
kio (KService*): WARNING: The desktop entry file Utilities/kfilereplacepart.desktop has Type=Service but is located under "apps" instead of "services"
kio (KService*): WARNING: Invalid Service : Utilities/kfilereplacepart.desktop
kbuildsycoca: WARNING: '/var/lib/menu-xdg/applications/Mandrakelinux/Multimedia/Sound/amarok.desktop' specifies undefined mimetype/servicetype 'audio/x-sid'
...
and more, so i ctrl-c it ... I tried configuring my desktop (right-click on desktop and select configure Desktop) but couldn't find anything that even remotely resembled options for sounds