I'm a KDE guy and not terribly familiar with Gnome. I just installed Debian Lenny on my wife's laptop with Gnome (she hates KDE) and no matter what I do Totem always comes up when we put a video DVD into the player. I can't uninstall it; it wants to take the desktop with it (good riddance in my opinion, but it's my wife's machine). Does anyone know a way to fix this? My wife is the typical end-user; she wants convenience at all costs and if I can't make Kaffeine pop up when a DVD goes in I'm going to have to put Ubuntu back on this thing and deal with THAT big pile of headaches again.

Regards,
JKZfixme

Thanks, but I tried that. The only options are Rhythmbox, Totem, and Custom. I set it on custom and put kaffeine in the "command" field and it still opens DVDs with Totem.

Okay, fixed it by going to system > preferences > removable drives and media. Under multimedia I changed the command to kaffeine for video. To take this the next step, does anyone know the command syntax to make kaffeine not only open but start playing the video?

never used kaffeine before (MPlayer guy), but the man page says -p or --play is the argument you're looking for. Conveniently intuitive

Good find, thanks.

What a nightmare. Why on earth would anyone use Gnome?