I feel like a clown LOL i just check my /home/(usrname)/.mozilla-1.4/plugin folder and saw that i did not installed or link any of the flash files in their
i forgot those was a different set of files that needed linking (gxine) with the flash one you do not have to link them I am ever so sorry just install them as root the 2 files that is installed are flashplayer.xpt, libflashplayer.so (sorry its not 3 its a typo)
basically fallow the insturctions above keeping in mind what i have added (and forgot to mention)
again check the link below
http://plugindoc.mozdev.org/linux.html