Ok I think I got the ip tables to stop.
Now every once is a while it will let me in, it'll ask for a password and I'm in, but most of the time it will just tell me " server closed connection unexpectedly " also I'm running redhat 7.0, I don't know what the kernel is.....
is anyone could tell me how to find out, I'd be hapy to tell you all what it is..
Thanks for the help so far