I don't think I can be much help here but I would like to post a similar question.
I have a MacBook (wireless) & a Ubuntu Server 8.04 (wired) machine. When I try to ssh into the ubuntu box it says:
"ssh: connect to host <hostname> port 22: Connection refused".
Also when I try to connect to it via finder (OSX Gui) it says that the Alias needs to be fixed. I have installed NFS on the Ubuntu box.
I am wanting to be able to SSH into it from the laptop and from outside my home network (from work or somewhere else). Also would like to be able to FTP files in and out.
Is there a way also to Use a printer on the Ubuntu Server and print from the Mac.
Any info or links to some tutorials would be great.
Thanks.