i stuck it in another machine and ran norton unformat on it, and managed to retrieve two of the three 20 gig partitions
i got my dads partition, which had one file in it that didnt matter if it was retrieved
i got my mothers back, which is good because i wont have an early funeral
i didnt get mine back, which means i lost about 18 gigs of data, mostly schoolwork, since alot of the other stuff is backedup
ah well, ill try unformating it again, see if that gets anything else
thanks for all your help, you guys are wonderful