I did it!
It took a while but just in case anyone runs into the same problem as I did then here is what I did.
I went to where the rpms where stored and forced the installs.
# cd /var/cache/apt/archives
# rpm -Uvh --force *.rpm
Then I ran a check to see what dependencies and what not got hosed up.
# apt-get check
When I saw the list (it was pretty big) I went one by one and removed them, i.e.
it said file <'qt$'> had multiple installs, so I did a
# rpm -qa | grep qt
to find all the installs, and then removed the one I thought was the outdated one.
# rpm -e qt.outdated
After doing this for a while, I finally did an:
# apt-get check
and it told me what I needed to do,
# apt-get -f install
which I did. finally I ran
# apt-get update
# apt-get dist-update
and it ran smoothly. What a horrible way to begin!