I fixed it !!!!!!
All I had to do was copy the firmware into /lib/firmware and now when I do iwconfig it now sees my wireless
I got the firmware from here
http://ipw2100.sourceforge.net/firmware.php
lo no wireless extensions.
eth0 no wireless extensions.
eth1 IEEE 802.11b ESSID:"Eskimo" Nickname:"ipw2100"
Mode:Managed Frequency:2.462 GHz Access Point: 00:30:BD:67:05:BE
Bit Rate=11 Mb/s Tx-Power
ff
Retry
n RTS thr
ff Fragment thr
ff
Encryption key
ff
Power Management
ff
Link Quality=99/100 Signal level=-37 dBm
Rx invalid nwid:0 Rx invalid crypt:0 Rx invalid frag:0
Tx excessive retries:0 Invalid misc:39 Missed beacon:2
sit0 no wireless extensions.
and dmesg does not seem to give me any errors
So after that I went into Desktop->System Settings->Network and then under device I added a new connection with my network info and it works
Do anyone have any ideas about the standby problem?