Ok. I installed the qt packages... took forever to do an RPM rebuild but that got done so I installed the newly rebuild qt RPMs then went ahead and installed the kde rpms in the same order that Mara said to... once I had the base/lib/blah blah installed I renamed those packages to *.rpmb and just typed in rpm -ivh *.rpm --nodeps --replacefiles to install all the other packages... Done right? go to start KDE and I get an error about how it can't start kdeinit... What now???

How do you try to start KDE? From login menu? Could you copy the whole error message you get?

I'm not a t the comp now but I use GDM for a login manager so I just click on the little session button thingy and select KDE then login with my username and password. It worked fine before I tried upgrading to version 3.1.1 Anyhow it just says 'cannot start kdeinit'.(may not be exact to the word but that's what it says.)

You need to modify your GDM configuration to point to the right KDE, but before you do it, check if yur KDE works correctly.

Switch to console (ctrl+alt+f1), log in. Run 'locate startkde' to find startkde executable (the program to start KDE), note down its path). Then open (or create if you don't have it), '.xinitc' file in your home directory. Inside put startkde with its path. For example, if startkde is in /usr/local/kde/bin, you need to put /usr/local/kde/bin/startkde. Save the file. Then run:
startx -- :1
and see if your KDE starts.

OK. That sucked. I did what you said: ctrl+alt+f1 logged in as root then made /root/.xinitc only line read /usr/bin/startkde saved file then ran startx -- :1 but x started complaining that it was already running... I rebooted and It complained that there were no screens so I selected the little run x configuration option which for RH8 it tries to run in a standard VGA mode but it could not run so I got into the root command line and ran xf86config got X back up and now here I am... In GNOME... Which kinda blows since I don't really like GNOME... Anyhow I have more info about the error message.
It said:
in a really ugly popup dialog box. When I went to log into GNOME, I accidentally forgot to tell GDM that so I went back to KDE and realizing this I clicked the okay button really quickly this time... X then complained that my session that had lasted less than 12 seconds and gave me a button to click on that said: "View details (~/.xsession-errors file)" When I clicked on it it gave me this:
If anyone can make any sense of that then please HELP!?!?

Like acid2000 said. Wow man, am I happy to run Gentoo! This is a classic case of rpm dependency hell.

Ok... By looking at your posts number, yngwin, I'm getting the feeling that you do this a lot... Just post a meaningless reply that really doesn't help anybody out just boosts your posts count, and therefore your ranking, and pisses me off that I, upon checking my email and discovering that there was a reply, got my hopes up thinking that someone had figured out how to solve my problem causing me to waste my time browsing to this page just to see a junk message from you that is completely meaningless to me... and I think I may just have to take a few more paragraphs to explain myself... or not... dang... that is a lot of typing just to tell you not to...*repeats self at least 3 more times*... Ok. I'm done now.

I think you should try to locate kdeinit and see it it's in your PATH. Open a terminal and run
locate kdeinit
What does it show?

I suggest you check out http://kde-redhat.sourceforge.net

It uses the apt-get system from debian. Worked like a charm for me. And it beats the hell out of the default package manager in RH.