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I did see her in person once. She is the best friend of one of the girls named Helen who comes to my church. I saw a few pictures of Kristen posted by Helen and I fell in love. A few days ago, I saw Kristen waiting for her bus at the bus stop and approached her and said hi to her and asked her "Do you have a friend named Helen?" (Of course she does. I just had to start a conversation) and I told her I saw her on several photos Helen posted a few times. I asked her name (Of course I knew what her name was. But I had to make sure not to scare her) and she told me her name and then she also asked me my name. She and I currently go to the same school (I knew that too) and she asked me a few questions about our school and I asked her if she is enjoying going to our school. And a couple of days later (of course I could have sent her a message on the same day but I had to SLOW DOWN) and told her that I am the tall guy she saw a couple of days ago and wished her luck for the remainder of her undergraduate. Then she said things similar back to me on facebook. Another while later I asked her if I can add her and we became friends on facebook. Fortunately, she is best friends with Helen and Kristen also saw that Helen and I are friends on facebook and that made Kristen feel less scared.
Lies, lies, lies. You would have been far better off just telling the truth.
Do you really think that Kristen and Helen arent arent/werent going to figure it out?
'Hey, you're Kristen, right? Friends with Helen? Did you know we go to the same uni? Maybe we could meetup for coffee one day' is far better than playing 'I'll pretend I dont know' mindgames.
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EDIT : Well, I was a bit exaggerating that "she won my heart" To be brutally honest, not quite. There were three girls in the past who truly won my heart and soul. Kristen is not one of them. She is, to be honest and to be exact, "someone I would not mind going out with" rather than "something I truly want to go out with".
More lies, eh? Even if it was true, what sort of person has thier 'heart won' with (my guess) a five minute conversation and a single msg on facebook? If you give it away that easily, who wants it?
'You've won my heatrt' is fine _if_ the person you are saying it to feels similar, _or_ you have a good reason to feel like that, even if they dont feel the same. 'You've won my heart' with that degree of contact just screams nutjob, emotional insanity, lair or any combo of them.
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A couple of days later on her facebook status she used profanity and stated she was harrassed.
Could have been you, could have been someone else. "I did a thorough research on her facebook and learned that she loves Chinese and Korean food" and possibly hitting 'like' just to show your presence means its likely to be you.
Originally Posted by The Courtship of Miles Standish:
Oh Captain! Remember what you always taught me – “You must do it yourself, you must not leave it to others.”
I know, John, but this is different. I fear not being shot by a bullet, but I greatly fear being rejected by the young and beautiful, Priscilla. But she will never turn me down with your elegant words speaking for me.
-- time passes:
And what, pray tell, is that, John Alden?
He wants to know if you will marry him.
What? You mean he didn’t even take the time to come here and ask me himself?
Well, he is very busy. But he is a good man, a true man. He is Captain of the Mayflower.
I don’t care if he’s Captain Kidd. If he doesn’t care enough to ask me himself, then I don’t care to marry him.
Oh, I’m so sorry. I didn’t ask in the proper way. My words were too blunt.
Don’t be sorry. Why don’t you speak for yourself, John?
What? Why? Do you mean you would accept my proposal?
That’s exactly what I mean.
Last edited by sundialsvcs; 03-04-2013 at 07:55 AM.
That is a secondary concern IMO.
I find it disgusting that you have dared to reveal her name and the private
conversation in a public thread and that too "behind her back"!
Don't you respect her privacy!
I did see her in person once. She is the best friend of one of the girls named Helen who comes to my church. I saw a few pictures of Kristen posted by Helen and I fell in love. A few days ago, I saw Kristen waiting for her bus at the bus stop and approached her and said hi to her and asked her "Do you have a friend named Helen?" (Of course she does. I just had to start a conversation) and I told her I saw her on several photos Helen posted a few times. I asked her name (Of course I knew what her name was. But I had to make sure not to scare her) and she told me her name and then she also asked me my name. She and I currently go to the same school (I knew that too) and she asked me a few questions about our school and I asked her if she is enjoying going to our school. And a couple of days later (of course I could have sent her a message on the same day but I had to SLOW DOWN) and told her that I am the tall guy she saw a couple of days ago and wished her luck for the remainder of her undergraduate. Then she said things similar back to me on facebook. Another while later I asked her if I can add her and we became friends on facebook. Fortunately, she is best friends with Helen and Kristen also saw that Helen and I are friends on facebook and that made Kristen feel less scared.
So you lied to her several times, then kept messaging her, even though she didn't reply, then told her she "won your heart"? Gee...wonder why she didn't respond.
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A couple of days later on her facebook status she used profanity and stated she was harrassed.
I sent her a letter to comfort her.
Did it ever occur to you that she felt that YOU WERE HARASSING HER??
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ok, I might be reading more responses on this thread, but I will no longer be making any more posts. Anything I say any further will be nothing more than an excuse to everyone on Linux Questions.
Because that's what it is. Your behavior towards her is troubling, and I don't doubt she's concerned about your actions (and not in a good way).
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Maybe there will be a sticky note saying, "puppymagic should stop posting on General in LQ"
Grow up. The majority of your posts on LQ aren't in ANY WAY Linux related, but at least you're posting in the correct forum. You asked a question, and got answers and advice, but ignore it all. You seem to be doing nothing but defending your position, rather than considering what's been said. If you're not going to take advice, don't bother posting a question.
You're acting like an unstable person towards her; you posted her name here (WITHOUT her knowledge...editing it later and pretending like you didn't, doesn't help your case), then you wonder why she won't go out with you, or even answer you? No idea how old you are, but if you're old enough to have a job, you're old enough to act like a man. Learn to handle rejection, and if you want to ask a woman out, walk up an ask. Don't play games, be direct. No means no, period.
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EDIT : Well, I was a bit exaggerating that "she won my heart" To be brutally honest, not quite. There were three girls in the past who truly won my heart and soul. Kristen is not one of them. She is, to be honest and to be exact, "someone I would not mind going out with" rather than "something I truly want to go out with".
....which contradicts not only what you said here earlier, but what you told her. Which story would you like folks to believe now?
If I truly was the one who was harassing her why didn't she block me yet on facebook? So cops can track me down easily later on?
See previous comment about "defending your position".
Who knows? Maybe she hasn't had a chance to block you. Maybe she's scared that if she does, you'll ratchet things up more. Maybe she's busy. Maybe she just doesn't care about you at all. No idea, since I don't know her.
And given your behavior, I wouldn't worry about the cops. Worry about her dad/brother(s)/friend(s) whom she may advise of this, if you continue. One (or all) may visit you, and it may not turn out well. Pay attention to what you're doing/saying when interacting with others.
I find it disgusting that you have dared to reveal her name and the private conversation in a public thread and that too "behind her back"!
Don't you respect her privacy!
Okay, perhaps this is a cultural difference.
Just to agree with Kooru. Not a cultural difference.
I nearly mentioned this last night, but decided it was too harsh. Now I have reconsidered.
The behavior as described could almost be described as, to put it bluntly, stalking.
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