Firewall dropping the packets maybe?
If I remember correctly, openproject keeps its own log instead of using the syslog. Look at the most recently changed files in /var/log/openproject and see if there is anything relevant.
For memory usage:
Anything in the cache column on the far right is allocatable. The kernel uses unallocated memory as an I/O cache, so the free column is almost always low. -m is for megabytes.