It took me a few hours but I finally Googled that one out!
Now I can send and receive email on my local network. All I had to do was to rebuild the access database file, even an empty access file seems to be working, although I added my desired hosts to the access file and marked them to be routed:
BTW the DB rebuilding command is:
"makemap hash /etc/mail/access.db < /etc/mail/access"