To all those wondering what the problem is I found out:
XMAME versions greater than 0.81.x have undergone a major change in structure in the way they list games. ANY XMAME VERSION GREATER THAN 0.81x WILL NOT WORK WITH GXMAME! The gxmame author has said he doesn't have much time for gxmame anymore, so don't expect much in the way of changes or fixes. Solution, downgrade to 0.81.1