After starting at endless logs on startup, I noticed an IP line with a :548 on the end of it in the atalkd startup area...
sooooo... I added port 548 to the ipchains, and now it all works!
Ok, so, ignore my previous post, I was just being blind. After digging into the "/etc/services" file, sure enough ... port 548 is the listen on IP port for appletalk file services. Don't know why i didnt see it before. I really hate answering my own questions ... makes me look really stupid... I'm not! Really!