i was messing with some kde themes and i screwed up my kde setup, how can i ditch it and start over with the little wizard that asks you if you want kde or unix or windows or mac behavior?

You can reset the settings by running "kpersoanlizer". Another way would be to select console login from the kdm menu, log in to the system and then run "rm -rf .kde*". That'll get rid of any KDE settings you have. Just be sure it's exactly what you wanna do if you are ging to use "rm -rf" coz there is no going back. To save the old directory without deleting it (without using "rm -rf"), you can do "mv .kde .kde-old" and "mv .kderc .kderc_old". type "startx" and you should have the dialogue to select your kde settings when KDE begins loading up.