SOLVED
I used Banshee instead...
I tried Rhythmbox...Songbird...GTKpod...NONE of them worked...
Banshee worked like a charm
...syncing my music now...interface is pretty bland...Songbird looked/felt the best...but I guess the developers forgot the rule...
FIRST make it *work*...THEN make it pretty lol
Anyway my headache is gone now