Hello.
I've not used NetBSD before, but I've done IPNAT in freebsd.
I have written a small howto for FreeBSD NAT that may be useful for you.
http://www.darthik.com -- go to the community based howtos, then to the howto listings, and you will find my FreeBSD Router/NAT howto.
Hope this helps.
Sorry, it is hard to understand what your problem is from your post....