I just installed apt for my SuSE box and I want to update KDE ...

I am not 100% on how apt works but I have managed to update a few programs by just guessing what the name of the download would be... for examble ...
anyway..

does not see to find anything

I then tried
that worked... and downloaded a whole slew of things...but when it was installing it got a slew of conflicts with other programs on my system.. (koffice... k3b... etc).... I think this may be because I am not updating all the packages that KDE uses? .... what would I choose for apt-get to find all the kde packages (or even better, how can I figure out what I should type in general)

i've never used SuSE out of uni, but i've been using Debian at home and work for years.

apt-get kde /should/ work just fine, since kde_3.1.2_all.deb is just a meta pkg to drag in all the other kde meta pkgs, so you end up with a huge install with most things you could want and a load you don't installed.

assuming that SuSE's apt can use debs from debian's mirrors, you'll need to use testing or unstable. either modify your sources to use testing/unstable or set up an apt/preferences file to pull in everything you need from the more recent releases