O.k.... nick_th_fury was right. I've come to realize just how heavily Enlightenment uses a caching system.... For the default Winter theme, the files to edit are:
/usr/X11R6/share/enlightenment/themes/winter/menustyles/menustyles.cfg
That will let you change the menu fonts
/usr/X11R6/share/enlightenment/themes/winter/borders/common/border.cfg
That will let you change the Title bar text
/usr/X11R6/share/enlightenment/themes/winter/borders/common/images
That contains your ICONIFY, MAX and CLOSE buttons
/usr/X11R6/share/enlightenment/themes/winter/borders/DEFAULT/border.cfg
That will let you change the position and size of your ICONIFY, MAX and CLOSE buttons
The last one wasn't too fun at first, but once you figure it out, it's not bad... I'll run thru it and do the best I can. There are 4 sets of variables for each button that need to change and they all end with 'ABSOLUTE'. 2 for your X axis and 2 for your Y axis. Your "Origin Point" is the very top right of the screen. So, setting a -60 for your TOPLEFT_X_ABSOLUTE under ICONIFY is going to move that button left along the X axis 60 pixels from the origin, which, you need to do because once you resize them using the WIDTH and HEIGHT variables they are all scrunched together because we haven't changed our ABSOLUTE variables yet to match.. I changed all 4 size variables for each one to 17. They were at 10. The way they had it set up,
TOPLEFT_X_ABSOLUTE minus BOTTOMRIGHT_X_ABSOLUTE = MIN/MAX_WIDTH/HEIGHT
BOTTOMRIGHT_Y_ABSOLUTE minus TOPLEFT_Y_ABSOLUTE = MIN/MAX_WIDTH/HEIGHT
This constant seems to hold true except for when a large celestial body, such as a Black Hole, passes at a near right angle to the plane of our Solar System.... Yea. Where was I?
So we want to offset both X variables by 17 now instead of 10. The same for our Y variables. Basically your most important ones are TOPLEFT_X_ABSOLUTE and TOPLEFT_Y_ABSOLUTE. Your X axis is the only thing we need to change significantly. Your Y axis, once you find a good number, will stay the same for all 3 buttons (because we want them all in the same position on our Y axis).
I'm starting to feel redundant. Look in my sig link under Enlightenment/Tweaks if you want to check it out. Actually, I see no reason why you couldn't just use my config file. I'm running DR16.7.1 (latest) with the Winter theme.
Also, I did open up all 9 image files with GIMP and changed them to 17x17. Afterwards, I got to thinking that Imlib will probably do that on it's own once it sees different dimensions in the config file. It does. So I deleted my modified images and restored the backups. Also, who ever made the theme looks to have screwed up on the minimize and maximize icon borders. You can't tell originally because the damn things are so tiny. Get your new config file in place and you'll see what I mean. The close button looks great tho... There will be new sets of icons in the same folder 'tweaks' if your interested as well. (Update: I used close1.png as a template and impoted the center of iconify1 into close1. Saved close1 as iconify1 overwriting the original and restarted E and now all 3 icons look good. I don't get it but I really don't care as well...)
After editing, you have to purge your config cache by:
cd /usr/X11R6/share/enlightenment/scripts
./e_cache_clean config
That should wrap it up. Took me a long ass time but it looks much better now.
Thanks for reminding me about it. I think I conditioned myself to ignore them. Seeing as how they were barely visible to begin with, it wasn't hard to do...
Jon
So, I made symlinks from all that stuff into /usr/X11R6/bin..... I suppose you could make your own menu by using ~/.enlightenment/{file.menu,user_apps.menu}..... 
Not sure how to acomplish that one.... Holding down SHIFT, ALT and HOME while clicking on both buttons did nothing for me......
