Re-ask on question?
Here is what i think this person is asking.....,
1- Person has server, probably a VPS- And they probably got it to offer better services to web design clients, or to set up flash media server via root access. prefabricated FMS hosting costs a crapload and I don't think I want to pay that cost to be the boss of my video streams. (I know you get what you pay for....)
2- Went the cheap route and got no added support or opted not to get the cpanel which can do alot of the suff for you but the hosting providers charge a much higher monthly fee for what I see as a one time install of something (except for updates) Also some hosting does not include the extras...,
3- So this newbie (NOW I'm talking about me) has done some readings and has had some 10 year Linux/unix/etc. vet who thinks your an idiot for trying to do it yourself and that you'll be sorry.
4- Now armed with just enough knowledge to get into trouble, the newbie can't figure out how to ask the proper question(s)., like for example, "I'm paying for a server and I would like to get remote access to install the mail server program, mysql, and the other stuff I need to start making wordpress pages or install Flash Media Server". if the newbie has OS X then he can use Terminal but what exactly do you type into the terminal to get to the directories????? I'm in the middle of a newbie tutorial from VTC on Linux basics and the instructor has totally passed over how he gets to the terminal window- I know he's on the local machine but he didn't show how to access the server remotely......,