go over to
this page here, and you'll see exactly what to do ..
you never said what kernel you tried to recompile, but if it is 2.6 then some of them steps you mentioned, are not needed anymore, and the howto is updated with what is now the way...if it is a version < 2.6 then basically what you said (other than the couple mistakes you made) is almost correct, but again, go to that link and you'll see a list of complete steps..