well, I found everything by trial and error with only minor setbacks (I hope).
For any who's genuinely interested here is my solution:
1) boot using the emergency start disk (downloadable in the rh9 ftp site if you don't have one)
type linux rescue at the boot: prompt and after the linux command prompt comes up
chroot /mnt/sysimage (default system mounting for rh9 boot floppy)
sfstab
this shows SOME info on the partitions, including which is swap (mine was hda4)
I was able to correctly guess that my root partition was hda2 since it was the only partition in which the cylinders/sectors combo equated to roughly the size I had specified for root. (thank God I'm not totally ignorant)
cd etc
vi fstab (edit the fstab file to reflect the correct swap partition)
:wq (writes and quits in vi)
vi grub.conf (switch root from hd0,1 to hd0,2 since my root is now on hda3)
:wq
grub-install /dev/hda (JUST to be safe)
exit
exit (I don't know why but the floppy requires it twice to reboot)
had I not tried running grub-install /dev/hda1 prior to all this everything would be working perfectly. now I have to try to figure how to restore the ntloader without ruining my mbr again

. I"ll post in this forum again to see if anyone can answer that question for me (will be interesting the curses I get for asking a windows question on a linux forum at least
