Could use some help getting started with X Server basics: almost there, but...
 

I'm completely overwhelmed by TFM which, yes, I have R. I still can't understand how to get even the basics of authorization working. I get a connection refused and have no idea where to go from here.

Any help or thoughts on this are appreciated.

Which protocol eg ssh, Samba, http, ftp ...........
Are you logging into you local machine, or from bx1 to box2 ?
Need much more info, inc exact cmds used and exact errormsgs