Easy One first.

"VGA=XXX" is supposed to go in the very first screen. The one where it asks you if you wanna install or do failsafe or APIC enable disable... the grub menu, just start typing and it'll put it in the boot parameters box...
Less easy one. Which is actually on the Suse help pages and could have been directly asked of them... anyway...
Some systems, including mine, the dvd drive spins down when its not being used, and will not spin up again unless the dvd tray is opened and closed again... Since it only uses the dvd a few times during the startup, I pushed the manual eject with a pin, opening the drive at the "Detecting Devices" area.. closing it once it got to detecting USB. Things then proceeded smoothly right up into the choosing software and timezone menu. At this menu, I opened the drive again. Then went and chose software packages, set the timezone, all other options.. leaving the drive open. When I was ready, I clicked install.. a green.. "ARE YOU SURE" sort of window pops up, and I close the drive and click yes at the same time, and everything installs perfect

Hope that helps...