For those who might find this thread for the same problem, I fixed the problem by going to:
Settings Manager > Session and Startup > Application Autostart (or session)
and changed something, can't remember exactly what, possibly unchecking XFCE settings helper, rebooting, and rechecking it. Or, under Session, going to XFCE4-panel, go the right and left click on whatever word is there, and changing it to "immediately". Thanks for the help, and hope this helps someone.