You want to socialise without actually having to put aside the time to socialise? Sorry, it doesn't work that way.
You have to meet other free software folk.
That is a given.
Unless
you put in the effort to meet them, you won't.
You'll have seen:
http://www.linux.org/groups/usa/oklahoma.html
... these people still have contact emails - so contact them. None of the actual groups seem to be active - but the page has leads to active groups. eg:
There is an Oklahoma (Ubuntu) Team Wiki page.
https://wiki.ubuntu.com/OklahomaTeam
... in which, there is a mailing list contact.
Your City LUG: OKLUGnuts had their last meeting on Feb11 2010 - so they are probably still active. What about them?
http://www.okclugnuts.org/
It also looks like there will be an open source conference held in okl - so you can find out about it and attend.
The West Texas LUG has a lot of members and attendees from okl.
Seriously - its up to you.