There are a few distros out there with GUIs to change settings for just about everything. The problem is that you're asking for advice from people who probably don't use these distros. CLI solutions are universal across all distributions, which is why we offer them. GUI tools are usually unique to one distribution only.

Labman - ubuntu is quite gui-customizable, as is SimplyMepis. I have heard the same is true of SuSe/opensuse.

Richard - In my understanding, the general progression from newbie-friendly to less-so in linux is something like

1 Ubuntu, SimplyMepis, Suse, PCLinuxOS, Mandriva, Freespire

2 Fedora, Debian

3 Arch, Vector, PC-BSD

4 Gentoo

5 Slackware

6 Linux From Scratch

Seeing as Ubuntu was too "friendly" and you had difficulty with Gentoo, perhaps you should consider Fedora or Debian. I would say Debian, just because of the ease of synaptic, the Debian package repositories (~20,000 packages), and the install once, upgrade over the internet ever after aspect. It is ubuntu with a little less hand holding.

i found the one i love and its mint i will tell why

"O my god its so cool theres a database you can search and its ubuntu/debian based i love it so back to the database you can serach and you can download programs its all automatic you just download a .mint file and there you go