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Sometimes I contact someone with E-mail/SMS or any other sort of message system and ask question that requires answer. And he/she doesn't answer that. Why do people do that? This wouldn't be a surprise if the person was angry at me or just not interested in answering. But these people are good to me and very kind in conversations. Sometimes they answer messages and it's like nothing even happened. Like no question was ignored. Talking to them face to face is also makes me feel like they don't even remember that they even received messages from me.
There are also some people who NEVER ignore a byte from me. Every single sentence gets full attention. I can write 3 lines of a messages and get 25 line answer.
So why do some people behave like they never receive messages from you? This is really confusing.
So why do some people behave like they never receive messages from you? This is really confusing
That's why Netiquette was invented...and that's why it's ignored...
And, believe me, you're still in the "green zone"...I mail my very own sister every once in a while and dont even get a reply...how's that for "rude"...
Mail is still (wrongly) not regarded (by everyone) as a valid form of communication. The phone HAS to be ansered, though people dont return (all the) calls either. Fax? Nobody uses that anymore. SMS? Depends who you text. If it's a younger person or someone like my dad, you'll get a reply. Again, it all depends on the validity someone gives a form of communication...
For mail, I suppose they might be using an unreliable mail service (yahoo comes to mind) or they could be getting a lot of spam or your message could go in the spam directory.
Honestly I think they choose to ignore some messages, or they have a low attention span and read the message but forget to answer because they get distracted.
For instant messaging there are less / no excuses. Here it kinda has to be just ignoring you. I know that every message I've been sent I have received upon logging in, and there is a log.
It's just something that people can do with electronic messages rather than face-to-face ... they can ignore you. You can do that in real life too, I do all the time, but it's harder to stop them from talking. This also applies to a phone conversation ... it would be considered rude to drop the phone. I guess I could fake a bad phone connection and then it cuts out Or I could say I gotta go now.
I don't ever count it against them if they ignore me. I do sort of mind that they don't recall receiving the message, because I'm sure they got it. Maybe they just don't wanna talk about it or it benefits them if they never got the message.
I answer pretty much every message I get electronically, no so in real life. I don't answer every question that I am asked and I don't answer the phone either most of the time, in fact I usually unplug it every time I get the chance
I don't have a message plan, so always ignore any sent to me. I also leave my computer for long periods, still signed into a chat program like Google Talk, so I miss a lot of IMs. It's not rudeness, I just have a life away from the computer.
I know it probably doesn't answer your question but my mobile phone is always on 'silent.' When I see a number of missed calls I choose who to call back.
Sometimes I don't feel like talking to (certain) people. I refuse to be available 24/7.
Maybe you are a bad writer. If you type a question at the start of you message, and then continue on to describe other things, it can be easy to forget the question; which is why i try to put my questions at the end of messages.
On the other hand, i believe people are by nature self centered, and because of this can easily develop short attention spans, which may be part of the issue too.
If you type a question at the start of you message, and then continue on to describe other things, it can be easy to forget the question; which is why i try to put my questions at the end of messages.
I used to do that and then realised that people don't always read to the end (TLDR -- "too long, did not read") so never got to the question!
I switched to putting the question(s) at the beginning. The recipient knows what I want them to do and can read the rest of the message with the question in mind -- or stop there if they are not going to answer.
The simple receipt of a message from anybody does not obligate me to anything. Whether I know you, what my relationship to you is, my present time availability, whether I know something that can help you and other factors all dictate whether I will reply. Personally, I find the use of e-mail and other electronic stored messaging useful for the exact reason that I can filter out as many as possible intrusions into my time. Telephone caller-ID serves a similar purpose, principally. I reject entirely the notion that anyone can send me an e-mail or any other message, and thereby obligate me to reply in any way.
If you are asking questions privately, when the answer potentially has value to others, you are defeating the purpose of public forums.
By message plan, I mean that I don't have unlimited, or even limited messaging on my phone. Every message costs me money, so I ignore all of them. Text me and you will be ignored. You have to pay separately for text messages, one way or another.
People do this to me all the time. First time...it happens...second time I ask to make sure I have there information correct. Third time, if they weren't on vacation and they aren't moving or with another really good excuse I just stop sending them messages.
The recipient may have 400 unread email messages. Too many people use reply to all, or post messages to the entire company. Email has become maybe the greatest productivity killer ever invented (aside from Solitaire)