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Old 08-18-2017, 03:56 PM   #1
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Single or married - how to know for sure?


Hi. As most of you know by now by my forum activity i am not easy person to communicate with. This is why i also have trouble finding suitable partner(girlfriend!). It somewhat ends up in wrong direction for unknown reason. I understand that problem is with me not them cause i was always considered wierd but i am normally different. I just have something that intervenes beyond my control. I am not sure if i should stay single to be able to care about woman in a hurt-free way or risk it and try more but with high possibility to unintentionally ruin their hope and dream about me being right person for them. I watched Game of Thrones as most do and it hit me that The Wall for some people could be destiny because God always needs someones for dirty jobs but at same time i can't honestly say i want to remove romance and love, which i also care about, completely from my life. I dunno. This is why i ask you advice what you think. Thanks.
 
Old 08-18-2017, 04:03 PM   #2
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Old 08-18-2017, 05:36 PM   #3
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I've responded privately

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Old 08-18-2017, 07:38 PM   #4
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As if Marriage is solely Yes, or No.

What about the Widows and Widowers?

Sorry to hear you're having a hard time, I get that, trust me. Quit trying and be yourself, it is better in the long run.
Thoughts can run away, (mine has for 40 some-odd years now) but you alone choose how to respond.
 
Old 08-18-2017, 09:25 PM   #5
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I've been married twice and am currently not so.

Based on that extensive experience, I can offer only that getting married is a decision to make after you've met the girl/guy, not before.
 
Old 08-19-2017, 12:41 AM   #6
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While thinking about it found this article..
http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/5140576
That could explain why despite having strong feelings about one girl she said No anyway(maybe even in song). Because it is written that i only need not strong feeling to be somewhat happy. I guess i was not wrong just misguided due to my uneducated preparation in feelings world. Signs were misunderstood but correct.
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And what is wrong with "easy behaviour girls"? Nothing! They deserve justice aswell which is true love. As a person who always believed higher power i will never agree that any life on this planet is without mission from that higher power. Also how come everyone only pretends they dont like them in public but privately go seek their attention anyway. Liars are not honest people.
 
Old 08-19-2017, 01:02 AM   #7
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classic!!
 
Old 08-19-2017, 08:18 AM   #8
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buy or read some (a lot) of books on abnormal personality disorders and try to figure yourself out. then get some on behavior modification to try and fix yourself. This is assuming you do not have the $300 + an hour to talk to someone on this subject. If you did you'd not be posting it in here seeking advice.

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Old 08-19-2017, 09:01 AM   #9
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Volunteer at a Shelter.

woof
 
Old 08-19-2017, 10:40 AM   #10
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I would suggest signing up to some online dating sites and "getting some dating practice". Now, that does mean being very careful what information you allow online and where you meet the people so be very, very careful.
Being somebody who doesn't really get on with others very well I find that "dating" is weird and even people who say they "don't date" actually do but aren't aware of it -- it's all in the questions asked and the ways conversations go. Without some experience it's difficult to know how to deal with it -- rather like a job interview.
Of course, ideally, one would just naturally, as part of life, meet somebody with whom one gets along and, then, it may or may not lead to more -- but that's not how it works.

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Old 08-19-2017, 01:58 PM   #11
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Why does people always assume nonsense? Just because person is misunderstood due to being lonely does not mean i have disorders or malfunctions. Also it is not like i never have been in dating start phase, it just gets serious afterwards. I dunno. Maybe it is because my parents watched too many fairy tales when they got married. They expect me to be in another fairy tale but it is not easy for young people who are most of time misunderstood and complicated for valid reasons.
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As if Marriage is solely Yes, or No.

What about the Widows and Widowers?{…}
Well. Sure. But technically widowers and widowers are no longer married. Till death do us apart?
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Old 08-19-2017, 02:08 PM   #12
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You asked for advice and I, for one, was very honest here.
I wish you the best with whatever you do in your relationships and hope you and anyone you are with are happy.
 
Old 08-19-2017, 04:58 PM   #13
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Well. Sure. But technically widowers and widowers are no longer married. Till death do us apart?

Internet is full of haters. Nothing new.
Tell us about it.
"Till death do us part" is the declaration.

Who's hating?
Volunteering is good therapy.

and I never said what kind of shelter. I left that up to you.
I thought we were trying to offer some consolation here, really.
I took your post personally, so tossing out the "haters" kinda stings.

End Transmission.
 
Old 08-19-2017, 05:22 PM   #14
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OK. Maybe i got too defensive but that prooves my point. People become offensive for no valid reason because they fail to not judge book by it's cover. Thanks for advice.
 
Old 08-19-2017, 10:15 PM   #15
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OK. Maybe i got too defensive but that prooves my point. People become offensive for no valid reason because they fail to not judge book by it's cover. Thanks for advice.
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" I understand that problem is with me not them cause i was always considered weird but i am normally different.
normally different:

When standards set by person or persons to dictate what normal is, which ones culture too is taken into consideration to determine what is considered normal (behavior) .

to be different than that cultural norms would one then be tagged as an "out sider".

to say one is considered weird by others is a very broad statement. I too could be considered weird by others all because I eat my food different then the others do, this does not make me a social out case or normally different. does it? I do not think so.


I do not know how anyone could get what your personality is truly like just by your description of what you say "others" say about you.


" God always needs someones for dirty jobs" and the Game of Thrones had to do with any bearing on this. The Game of Thrones is just someone fantasy displayed for others to watch.
and that God thing needing others for the dirty jobs? like to avenge others? if yes then that is a false belief.

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