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Arcane 12-22-2017 11:33 AM

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Originally Posted by rtmistler (Post 5783360)
{...}Stop citing society as an excuse. Own responsibility for things. If things are bad and you want to change them, a top priority is to change them. Studying scenarios on the Internet does not help one in dealing with people.{...}

I beg to differ. I would like to fix this planet also from crime etc. but i can't and noone will allow one human to completely change planet with society like a Deity would do with snap of fingers or something. That is utopia. Also Masqurade rules if i understand that game correctly..why do you think princess Diana got killed? Cause she also tried to go AGAINST society system. Not want to repeat that mistake yet..i might be too young and inexperienced and not-combat-ready but i am not a crash test dummy with low IQ. :P

enorbet 12-22-2017 04:37 PM

I sincerely doubt that is why Princess Diane died. It's far too easy to destroy someone under that much public scrutiny with nefarious and scandalous means, whether real or fabricated, It is far more risky to have them murdered. Plus, considering Princess Dian's station and how much she appealed to "the Masses", any vindictive soul wanting to remove her piece from the chessboard would likely be wealthy and powerful and possibly prefer she stay alive to suffer indignity and loss.

Ultimately the greatest likelihood is the heavy odds that alcohol, panic and automobiles at speed equal Tragedy.

Ghandi stated "Be the change you wish to see in the world" and I think that is great advice whether that is as far as you take it or if you choose to actively champion a cause. Revolution begins within. It's also a pretty good idea to avoid shooting oneself in the foot. :)

Arcane 04-10-2019 10:45 AM

Partial offtopic cause post not about me but this news is kinda important enough to post somehwere and related to this topic aswell so easy to reference later.

I would be worried(could be warning aswell) if saw on any news source that 30% of my country becomes mgtow|wgtow. Cause USA is getting more and more 'incelish' according to recent news(i use youtube again cause i suggest reading comment section below video to get my point).

freemedia2018 04-10-2019 11:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Arcane (Post 5749833)
While thinking about it found this article..
http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/5140576
That could explain why despite having strong feelings about one girl she said No anyway

You will never figure out people based on such broad generalisations. Not everyone is an individual either (they're really not) but you'll figure out more assuming everyone is an individual than assuming everyone is the same.

You've got a cart-before-the-horse problem. You need to figure out more about yourself, and learn more about other people, to answer the question you put here. You can't do it the other way around.

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Originally Posted by Arcane (Post 5983285)
USA is getting more and more 'incelish'

Anything regarding the topic of "incel" should be handled with similar care as biohazardous materials. I don't believe in heavy restrictions on speech, I do believe in taking serious precautions when reading certain things, to avoid becoming stupid as a result of exposure. It's a lot more difficult to do than people think (no one is really an individual, we haven't evolved as a species to be individuals-- but I do believe in the rights of an individual) but the effort is worth it. Be careful around that incel bullshit. It's dangerously stupid-- the sort of philosophy that only gets better with huffing industrial chemicals.

Trihexagonal 04-10-2019 12:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Arcane (Post 5983285)
I would be worried(could be warning aswell) if saw on any news source that 30% of my country becomes mgtow|wgtow. Cause USA is getting more and more 'incelish' according to recent news(i use youtube again cause i suggest reading comment section below video to get my point).

You spend far too much time watching youtube videos and put far too much faith in what you see there. I had never even heard the word "incels" before.

I've been married three times and filed for divorce from all three of them. I've been divorced 12 years now with no plans on being in another relationship. Online relationships are the very worst and I don't talk to anybody online privately or frequent dating sites. I'm comfortable in my own skin and don't base my sense of self-worth on whether or not I'm in a relationship.

I have a female friend I used to date years ago that I took out for lunch last week. If I want female companionship she is always glad if I stop by if only to talk or watch TV a couple hours. Then I, or we, can go to our own home and not be bothered with someone else invading our personal space.

She cares about me as much as I do her but neither of us love each other in a romantic way and better off as friends. She'd like to go see this today, that tomorrow and could never see enough. I hate to go downstairs to check my mail sometime and don't always want to be on the go. She's going to Denver later this month. I need to go to the store.

There is no room for anyone else in my life now, or hers if you come down to it. I'm set in my ways, get up when I want, go to bed when I want and that's the way things run. Just like I want them to. She's the same way.

There are worse things than not being in a relationship. Being in a bad relationship foremost in my mind. I thought I was lonely the last time I got married. We had a great sex life but sex does not a relationship make. I never knew how much I valued peace and quiet in my life till there was none.


One thing is for sure. Unless you call a prostitute, they aren't going to come knocking on your door. You have to get out there and meet people face to face. The suggestion to volunteer was a good one. It's a way to meet people.

Failure and rejection are a part of it and you definitely need to brush up on your social skills. Just because you have strong feelings toward someone has no bearing on them having the same feelings for you. It works both ways.

273 04-10-2019 01:43 PM

By the way, the way that us humans form relationships is by forming bonds and the way we do this is by communicating. It occured to me that the whole "finding the person of my dreams" thig is not really valid.
If yopu want to be ib a relationship hen take any opportunity to talk to people and find a person you're compatible with.

Samsonite2010 04-10-2019 04:39 PM

If you are just quirky but not too crazy, there is bound to be someone who can take the rough with the smooth. One possibility is to join some interest groups where you can simply socialize with people who are into stuff that you are into. E.g. photography club, Off-roading, sailing, anything really! I think just getting to know more people you share some interest in may eventually lead you to the right person or it will be fun trying!

273 04-12-2019 01:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Samsonite2010 (Post 5983403)
If you are just quirky but not too crazy, there is bound to be someone who can take the rough with the smooth. One possibility is to join some interest groups where you can simply socialize with people who are into stuff that you are into. E.g. photography club, Off-roading, sailing, anything really! I think just getting to know more people you share some interest in may eventually lead you to the right person or it will be fun trying!

indeed. I met a woman through Java classes at mny local school who, apart from some things*, was my ideal woman.
I've known people get together through LAN events and, myself, through online chat.
Just get on with it and be honest.
*long story, not relevant.

Samsonite2010 04-12-2019 05:52 PM

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Originally Posted by 273 (Post 5984261)
indeed. I met a woman through Java classes at mny local school who, apart from some things*, was my ideal woman.
I've known people get together through LAN events and, myself, through online chat.
Just get on with it and be honest.
*long story, not relevant.

That's cool - keep going like that and as long as you enjoy it, something great may come of it :)

273 04-15-2019 01:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Samsonite2010 (Post 5984340)
That's cool - keep going like that and as long as you enjoy it, something great may come of it :)

For reasons of my own I've stopped looking but I spent a short while abroad due to an online romance and, while it didn't work out for me, I can't say it's the worst idea but it did derail my life somewhat -- be realistic with your job and money situation before doing anything silly.
And, no, risk isn't romantic it's stupid -- hard work is romantic and the people who stay together prove that.

mediator_ram 04-25-2019 09:34 AM

Instead of figuring about their marital status, why not approach them and start a friendly conversation.
It might be hard but it works in finding new friends also in finding the spouse too.

273 04-25-2019 01:19 PM

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Originally Posted by mediator_ram (Post 5988425)
Instead of figuring about their marital status, why not approach them and start a friendly conversation.
It might be hard but it works in finding new friends also in finding the spouse too.

this reminds me of a "finding a girlfriend" book I read as a teen which suggested that, often, women had sisters or friends you could be introduced to.
Now, the post I responded to is friendly, helpful advice but the book I read came of as anything but.
I think there's a weird dichotomy between it beig useful to use "dating services" like websites to meet people and not being too focused upon "meeting the right person".
Some people have it lucky and can just be themselves and that "self" is consistent enough that they just meet people they get along with. Others have to pretend to be something else until the other person understands their true self and gets on with it -- that goes from people who post flattering pictures to those who feign knowledge or just act more confident while "courting".
Wow, sorry, not sure where I am going here...


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