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My Lose!

Posted 06-14-2022 at 08:52 PM by onebuck


I have not been active here at LQ lately. I lost my wife on 05-04-2022 and it's been tough to get through this. When you loose a life mate it is very difficult. Fortunately my family has been here to help me. I'm just getting where I can make it through the day without breaking down. With my health issues, I always thought I would be the one to go first but Anne masked her issues. But, one never knows! My loss is very deep and thankfully my support has been there to help through these trying times. Friends and family are very important in these trying times!

I am currently trying to settle things here in Illinois so I can get back to Florida, we had decided to make Florida our permanent residence, I was to travel back to Illinois and face time with Anne to select what was to be brought back and what to sell. Never to happen as planned.

Thankfully my wife had good sense to set things properly so no major burdens on the family but still we need to polish things in order to settle the estate.

We had so much property, mine was the most. I have a lot of things that should have been gone long ago. I am a hoarder and always had material to accomplish my required tasks. I did remodel several properties from my reserve stock but that did not always stand with Anne. My wood shop alone is worth a lot but who would want to buy tools that require one to know how to use them. I was banned from buying anymore from sales or deals. Garages sales were a big no-no. Just like buying a different golf club, I just had my passions and worth to meet that.
It's sad, the man with the most toys wins. Not so! I am thankful that I was able to share a great life with someone who I loved very deeply. She helped me to be a better man and allowed me to press myself into that. Sorry to vent or rant on but I do miss her!!
Please remember;
My own simple expression; Too bad everyone is not perfect in that we should attempt to do the honorable things in life. Love is important to settle oneself.
Thank the Lord for our mindfulness!
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    That's very sad, Gary. Sincere condolences. Stay strong.
    -- Brian
    Posted 06-15-2022 at 02:24 PM by brianL brianL is offline
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    Please accept my heart felt condolences.
    Posted 06-15-2022 at 04:52 PM by cwizardone cwizardone is offline
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    My condolences, Gary. I'm very sorry for your loss. I'm glad you have supports in place.

    George AKA hitest
    Posted 06-15-2022 at 06:00 PM by hitest hitest is offline
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    I also.

    Hold the good memories close.
    Posted 06-15-2022 at 07:57 PM by frankbell frankbell is offline
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    Sorry for your loss. 5 of the guys I have worked with over the years have had the same thing happen. All of them retired soon after.

    I never knew depression in my life until my dog died. (not even close to a wife I know) It kind of creeped up on me. Took me a while to recognize it and deal with it. Try to monitor your mental health for a while so that depression doesn't consume you.
    That is the only word I can use, it consumed me without me knowing what it was.

    Some web sites say to review photos and videos of the good times.
    Posted 06-15-2022 at 07:58 PM by jefro jefro is offline
    Updated 06-15-2022 at 07:59 PM by jefro
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    I've noticed your absent here on at the forum. Been wondering where you went. Sorry for your loss. Hope you find better days.
    Posted 06-15-2022 at 08:07 PM by SW64 SW64 is offline
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    My condolences. I've never been married, never wanted to! But I remember my parents' marriage and what they were to each other so I guess you and your wife were the same. I hope you have good friends who can tide you over this.
    Posted 06-16-2022 at 04:56 AM by hazel hazel is offline
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    My condolences. I hope you get through it best you can.
    Posted 06-16-2022 at 05:55 AM by TheTKS TheTKS is offline
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    My sincere condolences.
    Posted 06-16-2022 at 12:17 PM by solarfields solarfields is offline
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    please accept my condolences too, onebuck.
    Posted 06-16-2022 at 03:09 PM by ponce ponce is offline
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    I'm very sorry to hear that. Please accept my condolences.

    Posted 06-16-2022 at 05:50 PM by fido_dogstoyevsky fido_dogstoyevsky is offline
  12. Old Comment
    Time will help you heal.
    Posted 06-17-2022 at 02:37 AM by xri xri is offline
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    My condolences, went though a similar issue with my last wife. It was the absolute hardest thing I have ever had to deal with. Life goes on...
    Posted 06-17-2022 at 10:36 AM by chrisretusn chrisretusn is offline
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    My condolences and prayers for you and your family.
    Posted 06-19-2022 at 06:30 AM by mlangdn mlangdn is offline
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    Sorry for you loss. I'm not a frequent poster, but a frequent reader of your posts, and you've help in so many ways. Find a support group for widowers, go to the gatherings, be with people and I don't' mean with virtual friends, but real in-person people. Let them help you if they offer. Life isn't the same, and change is difficult, but with family and friends it can be beared.
    Posted 06-19-2022 at 11:34 PM by bamunds bamunds is offline
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    I want to thank all of you for the support. I have been active getting ready to move back to Florida. I am planning on leaving here on July 2 with some help from a couple of football players to load my things. My old body is limited on how much can be lifted. I am planning at least 3-4 days traveling pulling the trailer for the 1126 mile trip by my new F-150 Lariat that my wife got me for my birthday last year. If I make at least 400 miles per day then closer to 3 days. It's been a while since I pulled a large load over the road but then I was driving a F-350 dually with a larger trailer loaded. So I will be extra careful.

    The hard thing here is to get someone to handle the estate. This is peak sales time for auctions & estate sales. The company I've been planning with will get the estate moved out/off the property sometime in July and the sale sometime in September. I have no problems showing the house. Several families are interested and my attorney said remote sale will not be an issue.

    The core house is one of the oldest here in Eureka that were built back in mid 1870 by the Pickerill family. We are the fourth family to own this property. It is now clad in brick with a beautiful expansion for a kitchen with Amish built cabinets, island all with Granite tops, large master bath upgraded and walk in closet. Plus a large family room. It has five bedrooms with the master on the first floor. Anne and I did a lot to the interior to bring back to present era. I really love the house but it is too much for one person and I have a nice home in Florida that is just right for me. I will miss my wood working shop that I had built but stocked by me.

    Plus I will have family closer to me there and I will be able to play golf whenever time is available.

    Again, a big Thank you to everyone!
    Posted 06-21-2022 at 06:53 PM by onebuck onebuck is offline
    Updated 06-21-2022 at 06:57 PM by onebuck
  17. Old Comment
    KINDA know how you feel.

    I have my Moms ashes and in the middle of settling affairs. This is all recent.
    Texas to Arizona.

    At least I aint moving. We already have a realtor picked out.

    Between stress and grief. Hard to keep a even keel around folks also.

    Sorry for your loss. Good luck in Florida.
    Posted 06-22-2022 at 11:54 PM by rokytnji rokytnji is offline


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