Depression
Posted 03-19-2011 at 09:19 PM by lupusarcanus
How does one avoid it when they fail at everything?
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Failure is the opportunity to try again. and again until it's right. Nobody is going to succeed the first time on everything. Hobbies also help to give a sense of accomplishment... as long as they don't consume normal and healthy life advancement.
Posted 03-19-2011 at 10:26 PM by lumak -
and what is that 'everything' which you have tried till now and failed?
Posted 03-20-2011 at 01:43 AM by Aquarius_Girl -
The question is irrelevant to somebody who is depressed when everything feels like it has failed. The object is to see the useful things from situations. Learning from mistakes, realizing some things aren't your fault, obtaining understanding of a situation, etc.
Posted 03-20-2011 at 01:58 AM by lumak -
I don't think it is irrelevant, he has posted here (publicly) because he wants people to listen and discuss things with him (w.r.t his depression problem) (AFAIT). Listening to and discussing the reasons/causes lighten the load of mind and that's the reason people need friends.
Posted 03-20-2011 at 02:38 AM by Aquarius_Girl -
Hello lumak and Anisha, thanks for your concern.
Anisha is partially right; discussing it helps me feel better in some capacity. Although, going off on a tangent that lists all the things I have felt like I failed at would honestly depress me more. Suffice to say I have literally failed at several, relatively major things in life in general. It just really demotivates me to the point where I just feel like I am worthless, and that depresses me.
Failure is not an opportunity to try again, when the opportunity to try again is not possible. Then it's just failure. Kinda like the old joke; "If it at first you don't succeed, skydiving isn't for you."Posted 03-21-2011 at 08:45 AM by lupusarcanus -
Actually, if you list out the major setbacks then perhaps people here might be able to tell you "did you really fail or are just under an illusion", "what you could have done to avoid that so called failure", "Was it really that big", etc. I won't force you on posting here any further now. Good luck.
Posted 03-21-2011 at 09:43 AM by Aquarius_Girl -
Hrmm I always heard that listing the things you feel positive about is more productive... sort of like the whole fake smile actually makes you happier because the muscle memory of a smile triggers positive emotions.
Also like I said, even in failure there is something to be gained. All situations in life leave an imprint of understanding that we can apply to other seemingly unrelated situations and often in ways we don't realize.Posted 03-21-2011 at 04:25 PM by lumak
Updated 03-21-2011 at 04:27 PM by lumak -
Quote:Originally Posted by Anisha KaulListening to and discussing the reasons/causes lighten the load of mind and that's the reason people need friends.
Hate to hijack the comment thread here, but I just thought I'd chime in...just saying everyone's different is all, and that the above issue happens to describe me. (though I'm sure you knew that already )Posted 03-21-2011 at 07:09 PM by MrCode
Updated 03-21-2011 at 07:15 PM by MrCode (fscking spelling...) -
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Come out of that determinism phase, please, it should be none of our business whether it is all predetermined or not .... we as a human have got ONLY ONE life, don't waste it on such meaningless thoughts...but you are not going to listen, I knowPosted 03-21-2011 at 08:16 PM by Aquarius_Girl
Updated 03-21-2011 at 08:17 PM by Aquarius_Girl -
No, you're too young to claim to be a failure. Wait 'til you're my age.
Posted 03-22-2011 at 05:26 AM by brianL -
brianL certainly doesn't fail at the one liner.
Posted 03-22-2011 at 06:30 PM by lumak -
Quote:Failure is the opportunity to try again. and again until it's right. Nobody is going to succeed the first time on everything. Hobbies also help to give a sense of accomplishment... as long as they don't consume normal and healthy life advancement.
This is just an example, you may not be interested, but there may be some hobby you are interested in that you can earn a living from. I had three different major fields of work before I found one that I loved. My only regret was that I did not find out earlier in life.Posted 03-23-2011 at 02:58 AM by Larry Webb -
Posted 03-23-2011 at 06:19 AM by brianL