THANK YOU GUYS SO MUCH!!!!!
geez! I've been on IRC #linuxhelp on effnet for like 2 days asking about this and no one knows!
I looked through all of the gnome stuff in the gnome dir but didn't realize it would be in the L dir.... why does XFCE depend on another windows manager to be installed for it to work? Technically aren't the sort of in competition... I know they work together if you want but the point for me is not to have bloated gnome installed... now I might as well after all the gnome stuff I've installed
Let's hope it runs now!