GOT IT WORKING!!!!!! well, got the driver to recognize the card at least, I haven't tried anything else yet.
Here's the problem, on the HCL the card named Edimax EW-7128g (my card) is listed as a card using an rt2500 chipset.
Now yesterday while browsing on the serialmonkey website I spotted a thread discribing the same kind of problems as mine, I had a good look and there was the answer:
When doing lspci if you get:
00:0e.0 Network controller: RaLink: Unknown device 0301
Then the 0301 at the end means that your card is using an rt61 chipset, nothing wrong with it but it needs the dedicated rt61 driver, also available on the serialmonkey site, to work!!!
note that i am still under slack 10.0, that I tried to get hold of 10.2 by going down the road again, downloaded it from a net cafe, left it overnight when I came down this morning my CDs were waiting for me. Came back home to try the install, wouldn't work, that muppet burned 4 times the same image on 4 different CDs .... OK, enough rant, but it makes me wonder how he got his job in the first place, well at least he was a bit more helpful..
I will have to go and edit the HCL to warn other people