Nah, okay - I think that is indeed IDE. IDE and SCSI are two different kinds of controllers and if you had a SCSI drive, you'd need a SCSI-enabled kernel rather than bare.i. But that should be good.
Most computers have two channels to which you can hook up two drives apiece. So there's the primary and the secondary channels. And one of the drives on each needs to be master and the other slave. With one drive you've got the equivalent of a primary master, I guess, but it's not an issue there either.
PnP didn't work. Damn. Sometimes Windows will let stuff share IRQs and such that they shouldn't. But oh well.
Yeah - if your disks don't have the kernels you'd need to make a boot floppy out of the other kernel but it actually sounds like bare.i should do fine.
I'm afraid I'm going to have to hand it off to somebody else. I had those very basic ideas but, beyond that, I don't know why it wouldn't recognize your drive right off the bat. Um. I feel like I'm missing something but I can't think of it. Hopefully somebody else will help you out soon - this place is crawling with gurus.