ok so i found how to do it
here...
the syntax of the line you have to edit is a little different for slackware but still obvious. the only thing i need to know now is how to get nautilus to stop drawing the desktop.
oh and if i disable nautilus drawing the desktop what do i lose from gnome? i would assume the gnome r-click menu but i would gain the flux one so no big deal. and i would lose the desktop icons, again, no big deal. i do have some nautilus scripts though. would i still be able to use them from within nautilus or is the r-click gnome menu going to be disabled entirely?
i dont know... i guess ill have to wait and see.