Ok, nailed the KDM login, just moved up the lines for kdm in rc.4.
The problem with halt reboot remains. Even if I call them like:
/sbin/reboot, I get reboot: must be superuser.
That's why I'm thinking suid. Is this the way distros like SuSE and RedHat do it?
The button that logs out in KDE has only 2 options. Logout/Cancel.
Edit: woooo, strike out the last sentence. It seems that the 2 options presented was because I had gdm or xdm. Now that I have kdm shutdown and reboot just became an option