Hey Flossie.
Did you enable shorewall (default Mandrake firewall)? You can check under "configure my computer --> Security --> Firewall".
That said, it seems plain that your problem is that your computer is refusing connections... you must have some sort of firewall installed. If shorewall isn't doing it for you, take a look at
Guarddog. Its a really simple firewall (I really love it), and comes on your CDs.
I agree with mac_phil. Keep us updated.