wow that was fun! for some reason if i dont install tones of useless rehat utils it misses the sm-client. anyways got it working. i recreated the sql database along with the additional hosts and it works...... :-)
only for accessing the db though. if i click on the admin feature it still fails but mysql_setpermission did say everything apart from admin so i guess thats why.
now on to read my php and mysql book i got for xmas