Well done. To fix the font thing you might not need to download anything, just run this command
Code:
ln -sf /usr/X11R6/lib/X11/fonts/TTF/luxisri.ttf ~/.mplayer/subfont.ttf
It'll make a symbolic link to a font you should already have. I don't know if it's possible to autoplay a dvd, I always right click and choose Open DVD from the menu. You might be able to play a dvd without the skin if you use the command
mplayer dvd://1
or the number of the track you want to play. You should install the codecs and skin. It does all work. Did you specify --with-codecsdir=/someplace when you configured it? I'm not sure where the default location for codecs is. I think it might be /usr/local/lib/win32