Same piece of hardware, Ubuntu LTS Server was unable to detect the same RAID controller, so I can feel your pain..
There are customized versions of the distros around, for instancwe the
Debian on Dell Servers website that contains customized Debain install CD's that work on Dell and some other servers. you can compile your own kernel with support for the controller and make your own set of install CD's you could possibly even switch to another shell and manually load the necessary module.. I haven't had to do any of these yet, but I do believe they are possible workarounds.