Im trying to get Wine to work on SuSE and every time i try to install anyting it says this
connecton refused make sure your X server is running

I have no idea what an X server is and where to get one

X server takes care of the graphical display of your linux. Post here the detailed error msg, so we can take a look...

i belive i have done something bad.....i installed a different x server and now i just got this littel grey screen with 4 little boxes in the left hand corner....is there any way to restore my orginal x server wihout reinsalling?

When you boot the computer, does it take you to a login screen?

What happens in this grey screen, when you click the mouse?

yeah it takes me to a login screen and when i get to the grey screen and clik the mouse it would bring up a konsole but i restarted the computer and after i log in the grey screen comes up but it does nothing when i click

Is it a plain grey screen with an "X" shaped cursor? Or are there windows in it (you said there were boxes -- do they look like console sessions)? It sounds like X is starting but you don't have a window manager (or just a very basic window manager) running. To start KDE when X starts, create a file called .xinitrc in your home directory and add the following line:

startkde

Then when X starts KDE should start ... of course, I usually do this from a text console in runlevel 3, so it may be slightly different when you login through the GUI (this is why I set my boxes not to login through the GUI...). Anyhow, good luck with it, and I'm sure there's a way to restore your old desktop -- it looks probable that the xinitrc config file got put out of joint when you installed a new X server, so work on fixing that issue and see if it helps. Good luck!

It seems like you are loading a different desktop. See the login screen? The "Menu" button will let you choose which desktop you want to load. Suse enters the last one used, by default. So, what you have to do is get to the login screen and choose kde as your desktop.
Post again if I'm wrong.

The "No X server running" message probably means you ran Wine as root (don't do this). After you install the RPM leave root and return to your usual user with the "exit" command.