Well there's your problem - that NTFS is almost all your disk. I hope this doesn't also apply to the NTFS partition
no matter which partition i click none of the option are click-able. Everything remains gray.
If you can
alter the NTFS, use your gparted liveCD to shrink it to 100 Gig first (apply that). Then drag the left edge of the extended to occupy all the now free space, then drag the Linux partition (sda5) to the far left - then expand it to fill the space. Can be done all in one operation if you prefer.