A simple answer to your question would by NO! There is no such a big one package for all the things you mentioned. Still if you already installed a Linux distribution all these packages should be present on any media you used for installation. (a CD, ftp site or whatever.
If you absolutely want them all to be installed for you without doing that one by one by yourself the solution I can think of is to reinstall your Linux distribution. (preferably a friendly on – try mandriva 2006). In the installation you have the option of main type. Desktop workstation, development workstation, and database server. You can actually select the three together. The second an third ones aren't selected by default. The second will give you Autoconf, Automake, and many -devel- packages. The third will give you mySQL and postgresql. (this should also work with Redhat).
By the way, any friendly distribution will give you an easy way for locating and installing
packages. It shouldn't take a lot of time to install the packages you need in the normal way.
I didn't understand what you meant with “One big package to update my kernel.” .The packages you mentioned have nothing to do with the kernel. If you however meant updating the kernel. Well, this is nothing that you should try by any means as long as you are still new to Linux. If you need to upgrade to a newer kernel. You should upgrade your Linux system as a whole. This is easier, and less dangerouse.
I hope this was helpful, good luck