Ok I have searched for days now but haven't been able to find my issue. Many similar issues with different causes but not mine.

I have a brand new install of LM 13 KDE 64bit. It will only boot to a black screen. There are no error messages. I thought at first there was something wrong with the install. I have installed 4 times with different media. I checked the hash and it's good. finally I tried alt-f2 and got a cli. Then I found startx and it worked but, from cold boot no GUI and from sleep I can't even get a cli. I need to know how to get x11(?) to start automatically on boot.
I have tried reinstall anything KDE related I could find through package manager and tried a couple of the possible solutions from other threads but nothing worked.

travis@XBMCenter ~/Documents $ sudo dpkg-reconfigure kdm
/usr/sbin/dpkg-reconfigure: kdm is broken or not fully installed


Also, When booting from usb install drives or a persistant usb install of the same distro or other distros everything works fine.

The machine specs:
i3 2100
Asrock H61-M itx
Intel integrated graphics 2000
2 x 4GB Gskill DDR3 1333Mhz
8GB Swap
2 x 500GB Seagate SSD hybrid Drives
I didn't partition out the install, just used the entire 500GB for everything and added the swap to the second HDD and a NTFS partition for my wife's machine to read if needed.

thanks to any who look.

No you don't. A brand new install of LM KDE would be version 14 (Nadia) not 13. 14 was released in December 2012 so even it is hardly brand new.
In any event why not try version 14 and maybe your problem will go away. You can get it here:
http://blog.linuxmint.com/?p=2271
Otherwise you'll need to give more details about the nature of your install.
jdk

@ jdkay - semantics. I guess i should have said "fresh" install. Either way i went back to Mate after Google'n my little heart out.