Somehow got it working... here's what I did:
in /etc/bluetooth I edited the file "pin" from Bluez to a number (2205)
Then entered:
hciconfig hci0 up
hcid
hcitool scan
Which gave me the address of my phone
modprobe rfcomm
rfcomm connect [phone address]
then entered the pin i modified in the pin file (2205)
And it's paired...
