Just installed Xming which seems almost identical to VcXserv with the exception that it doesn't crash on login. Seems like it's all working now. I'm actually doing stuff on my server in a KDE desktop environment, just as if I was at the actual computer, it's pretty awesome.
Also using KDE for the first time, and it's really cool with lots of funky stuff that Win7 doesn't have
Any way to get sound lol?