OK, I might be oversimplifying this, but its just a shortcut. On Ubuntu, all I simply did was delete the Desktop Icon, then go to your System Menu(KDE) or Places Menu (Gnome), and simply drag your home folder to your desktop from the Menu.... Presto, New Link.. I couldn't get this to work with the Trashcan, but in Gnome, I simply went to the my /home/indygunfreak/.trash folder, right clicked it, chose create launcher, and moved the launcher to my desktop. You can then browse your icons and put an appropriate icon.
Now if you're not getting to it when you click on the menu items, obviously this is a waste of time.